tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3871210086279734568.post2468244625884889477..comments2011-10-30T17:58:51.897-07:00Comments on Ditzy Deb's Dirty Dishes: DisappointedTickled Pinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07842471332047918206noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3871210086279734568.post-14005293981366404752011-07-18T12:47:07.592-07:002011-07-18T12:47:07.592-07:00I concur with the above, you have lots of good adv...I concur with the above, you have lots of good advice there - I just wanted to jump on the "don't give up" bandwagon! You are doing fine and you'll get there. There's no timeline and you'll get where you need to go. Hugs to you!Stephanie M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17389046478307990176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3871210086279734568.post-79820561165697469432011-07-18T05:48:25.122-07:002011-07-18T05:48:25.122-07:00You've already gotten such great advice, but I...You've already gotten such great advice, but I just wanted to tell you - DON'T GIVE UP! Keep blogging. So many people disappear when they're struggling, but the times when I've had hurdles all these ladies have helped me out tremendously!<br /><br />You need to tell your loved ones to back off because they're impeding your weight loss by expecting TOO much of you. Not everyone loses 80 lbs in the first 6 months, or even the first year! Doesn't mean you're not a success, but you can be a model for the people who aren't as fast out of the gate... but you WILL get there. I don't even know ya and I believe in you.<br /><br />If you're still throwing up that often, I'd say go in for an unfill and be honest with yourself about your caloric intake. (For instance, yesterday I ate about 1700, when my goal for the day is 1200! Oops.) If you have the ability to eat more healthful options I know you'll make better choices, but if you live in fear of eating, you'll resort to sliders.<br /><br />There is no special tool, the band is the tool, you just have to believe in yourself. *hugs* Lord knows we all do!Rhondahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02136948771014366470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3871210086279734568.post-45706504980302817532011-07-18T02:48:57.877-07:002011-07-18T02:48:57.877-07:00Please don't give up and sell yourself short. ...Please don't give up and sell yourself short. This is hard. Even with the aid of the band, losing weight is hard. I'm about 9 1/2 months out from surgery and I've lost just over 30lbs since then (20 lbs lost pre-op). Not stellar numbers by any means, but I'm plugging away.<br /><br />Sometimes I get frustrated and wonder if I made a mistake. I thought I'd be much further along by now. But then I remember that if I didn't have this surgery, I could very easily have gained another 30 lbs in that time so, I focus on that.<br /><br />Hang in there. 30 lbs in 6 months is great progress.Kikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06198063370461455405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3871210086279734568.post-38169482402683060822011-07-17T20:50:09.144-07:002011-07-17T20:50:09.144-07:00Deb..please don't think you're a failure. ...Deb..please don't think you're a failure. The rate of Weight loss is SO drastically different for each of us. I didn't lose that much the first 6 months either. There is a H.U.G.E. learning curve with the band and I like to joke that I was a slow learner. I tested everything. Please don't think you are a failure! You are always welcome at boobs, just being around other women and talking about it might help you...we all learn from each other, every step of the way. You're one of us, so just ask if you have questions or need help.<br />I'm sending you a big virtual HUG. Feel better?! :)Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00825425735172749255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3871210086279734568.post-54621160749635975652011-07-17T18:43:29.193-07:002011-07-17T18:43:29.193-07:00I think if we put a time limit on the band we are ...I think if we put a time limit on the band we are selling what it can do short.I would never at ONLY 6 months out say anyone is a band failure. I have had the band for over 2 years and have lost over 110 pounds and if I base my overall success on the 1st 6 months it wouldn't have great. I didn't even have decient restriction until 6 months out. I definitely lost the bulk of my weight from 6-12 months after surgery.<br />Please don't give up, the band is a great tool, but sometimes it takes awhile to figure out how to use it best for you. It does take work, but it is life changing once you figure out what you need. Please feel free to send me an email if you ever want to talk.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07045822533798781579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3871210086279734568.post-78817723566077713172011-07-17T18:25:39.831-07:002011-07-17T18:25:39.831-07:00Awww honey - when you are feeling most down and mo...Awww honey - when you are feeling most down and most discouraged - blog...reach out and ask for help. You are not a failure. You are a human who even with a tool - has to still find your way. You've lost weight - you haven't gained...that's a start...if you look hard enough you'll find MANY blogs where people with a band gain or don't lose for months...and they have to dig deep and keep trying and reach out and somehow everything works out. Believe in yourself....because I do. xoxo♥ Drazil ♥https://www.blogger.com/profile/10177140029694038645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3871210086279734568.post-84569703857811289602011-07-17T17:23:33.281-07:002011-07-17T17:23:33.281-07:00Thank you so much Stephanie. Wow! I am speechless....Thank you so much Stephanie. Wow! I am speechless. Your kindness is just what I needed when I feel like I am looking up to a worm. You are right...I CAN NOT give up. I invested too much time and energy in getting where I am now. I can and will re-focus and do what needs to be done. Thank you so much! You ROCK! This is the perfect week to focus on me...as my dear daughter is off and volleyball camp and all I have to worry about it ME. (and dear hubby) but basically ME. Its like a new start. (I'm feeling a little bit like the Jennifer Hudson commercial...I can hear her little song in the background. giggle) Take care friend and thank you.Tickled Pinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07842471332047918206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3871210086279734568.post-2797908657013151722011-07-17T17:13:23.718-07:002011-07-17T17:13:23.718-07:00Deb...Don't lose faith. I was a SLOW loser for...Deb...Don't lose faith. I was a SLOW loser for the first 8 months. I lost 40 lbs in 8 months, but I never gave up. In my 5th month, I started working out with my personal trainer and it wasn't until the 8th or 9th month that something just clicked and the weight just started to come off.<br /><br />I don't know what your expectations were for the band, how much you work out or what you are eating, but if you feel you are areating too much, you need to set your embarrasment aside and go get a small fill. You ARE NOT a failure. I'm not one to candy coat things, so when I tell you need to refocus on YOU, not on comparing yourself to others, I mean it in the nicest way.<br /><br />If you give up, failure will win. You are stronger than that! You can do this, but you have to believe in yourself. Tomorrow is a new day with a clean slate and only you have the power to create the future you always dreamed of. :) I am hear for you if you ever need it, as are all the BOOBS. Sometimes asking for help is the first step.<br /><br />Hugs...stephanie sjoy1972@gmail.comStephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02194299634556467542noreply@blogger.com